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A Prayer When You Feel Invisible

Prayer when You feel invisible

A Prayer When You Feel Invisible

Did you know the current American culture is at its loneliest in the last fifty years? Would you guess loneliness has been found to be a constant throughout the lifespan? That a majority of people feel like no one knows them well. What about feeling like you belong? That, too, is a familiar predicament. Regardless of age, socioeconomic status, or family structure, you and I can experience such isolation mixed with rejection or just being passed over that we feel invisible.

It’s as if no one really sees us, no matter what we do or say.

You and I can swim years in these bottomless waters. All the voices we hear (internally and externally) team up together helping us realize the problem must be us.

I waded in this murky mess for years. For me, this is not a new emotional locale. It’s terribly familiar territory. And for you, that’s a good thing because I’ve learned a few things and gathered a few resources to help move me past those swamps of negativity. Allow me to share one with you today.

When you feel unseen, or like no one knows you, and they don’t care, make a be-line to Psalm 139. Say it to yourself until you believe it to be true – and the heaviness is lifted.

Psalm 139:1-5

O LORD, you have searched me and known me!
2 You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
you discern my thoughts from afar.
3 You search out my path and my lying down
and are acquainted with all my ways.
4 Even before a word is on my tongue,
behold, O LORD, you know it altogether.
5 You hem me in, behind and before,
and lay your hand upon me. Psalm 139:1-5

More than anything, you and I need to know that we know that we know—we are known by the God who created us. These are not words limited to the super spiritual, the multi-gifted, the youth and worship leader types, or the woman you wish you were more like.

These are for you.

They tell of a reality just as true for you and me as any other words in the Bible. The problem is that we often don’t remember them, nor do we choose to believe them and possess them as our own.

From one invisible girl to another – write these verses down. You need them. You need them close. Read them out loud. Then pray them. Pray them every time you start drowning in insignificance, and do this until they become a part of your fiber.

We may not be able to change our circumstances or the way we are treated by others – but we can alter our own perceptions and beliefs about ourselves. It matters not what you think of yourself, or what anyone else thinks—but only what God does.

Let’s get his vocabulary and perspective into our minds and hearts.

A Prayer for When I Feel Invisible

Prayer when You feel invisibleLord God,

I thank you for your Word. Thank you for the comfort and encouragement only You can give. Today, I am thankful my friend is known by you. What a joy that you know when she sits down and when she gets up again. You even know her thoughts. Not because you are some dogmatic control freak – but because you created her this way, and imperfections, catastrophic failings, quirky habits and all–you love her. You know everything about my friend: her dreams, where she goes, even the words before she says them. You know her intricacies and love her lavishly. Your presence surrounds this dear one, and your hand always is on her. To you, she is exquisite rather than invisible. Help her to feel your hand upon her life. Teach her how you see her so that she feels invisible no more.

In your precious name, Amen.

For the one who feels unseen, largely passed over, and insignificant – I have created a resource for you. Grab your copy of Can You See Me, Now? Good news for the lonely, left out, and less than and join the Strange Readers Café. We will be going through the book together beginning Oct. 3 until December 16 – just in time for Christmas.

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A Prayer Against Oppression

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A Prayer Against Oppression

If I could go back and offer my twenty-something self, sound, biblical advice, praying against oppression would be at the top of my list. Doing so might have brought about the freedom I experience today much earlier. Decades so. Instead, I try to capitalize on conversations with twenty-somethings or thirty-somethings, or even forty to fifty-somethings struggling with the same issues.

The conversation generally goes something like this:

My friend begins to talk about her day or week. She confesses she does not feel like herself when she is in a particular environment. My friend doesn’t think one of the other women likes her. This person is much funnier and more outgoing making her everyone’s favorite, while my friend finds herself emotionally blending into the wallpaper.

I know how she feels. For years, I had layers of the same stuck to me. It’s one of the reasons I wrote Can You See Me, Now? Good news for the lonely, left out, and less than. The reality is that you and I engage in situations from work to church, and to family in which not everyone likes us. At least, they don’t seem to care what we say or do. There are others within the group who are preferred, leaving you and me in the shadows as outsiders. Often, we take these speculations and allow them free mental reign. We surmise, that if we were different then we would be enough. Heard. Seen. And known.

Advice on Man’s Oppression of my Twenty-Something Self

What I long to advise my twenty-something self is to stop blending into the wallpaper and seek divine help. On my own, I feel as if I am wearing an invisible lead jacket I cannot remove. The path forward lies in prayer, believing God can do what the Word of God declares he can do.

The Word of God shows us what we can pray to experience victory over the value and weight we give the opinions of those in our midst.

Redeem me from man’s oppression,
that I may keep your precepts. Psalm 119:134

A little further investigation helps us see the power we have before us. “Redeem” in this verse is used to denote the largest sense of deliverance. We cannot “redeem” ourselves. A source outside ourselves must come and do the work for us.

This is what the Psalmist asks for – divine intervention from “man’s oppression.” Scholars note that this particular request to be redeemed from man’s oppression is a call for freedom of opinion which is considered “the richest blessing which man can enjoy.” (Barnes’ Notes on the Bible)

That weight you feel? It’s real. As hard as you try, you will not be able to shake it off. But God has made a way for you and me to be the women he has created without concern for what others think or even if they don’t think about us at all.

Let’s start asking God to intervene by helping us stop the negative mindsets, the emotional heaviness, and the trips to the sidelines. Let Him teach us who we are in Christ and how to live in possession of the promises purchased for us.

A Prayer Against Man’s Oppression

Lord, God, prayer against oppression

Today my prayer is straightforward like Your Word on the issue. Intervene in the life of my friend today. I pray you will deliver her from her care and concern about how others ignore her, speak to her negatively, or treat her as if she doesn’t quite measure up. Redeem her from the heaviness of it all because she cannot free herself. Let man’s oppression have no hold. Replace the outside assessments and even her self-assessments, with truth. Teach her how you see her, what makes her special in your sight, and what a gift she is. Transform her inner understanding to such a degree she can walk out in the confidence of who you are making her become. Show her who she is in your sight. Let her know you see her, you think she’s exquisite. And your assessment, alone, matters.

In your glorious Name, Amen.

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Did you know Cheri’s new book, Can You See Me, Now? is coming out soon?

Find out more HERE!

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Join My Launch Team

Join the Launch Team

I want you on my launch team!

We are thrilled to announce the opening of the Launch Team Application for my new book, Can You See Me, Now? Good news for the lonely, left out, and less than.

You might have a few questions, like what’s the book about? What do you do on a launch team,? Why should I be a part? and How do I sign up? I’m here to answer your questions and set your mind at ease.

What is the book about?

WE ALL WANT TO BELONG AND BE LOVED.
But what happens when we get passed over, left out, or seem invisible? How do you make new friends, navigate drama, and enjoy authentic connections?
Can You See Me, Now? reveals how you were handpicked by God to express love, thrive in community, and enhance the world around you. Using a Scripture approach combined with captivating stories, Cheri will show you how.

What do you do on a launch team?

There are a lot of perks to being on someone’s launch team, but we will get to that in a minute. The overall purpose is to let people know the book is coming. Then let them know the book is here. And finally, is the book worth purchasing?

How long does it last? 

August 29 to Sept. 24

( The sign-up window just opened and will remain open until August 23.)

IF I CHOOSE TO JOIN, WHAT DO I GET:

  • The FIRST 20 who sign up get a free digital copy of the book.
  • Help. My friend, Karen, is going to make it soooo easy for us – it’s just fun.
  • All members get A FREE SAMPLE (the Intro and first 3 chapters)– BEFORE it releases.
  • Free swag!!!!!!!!
  • Chances to win weekly prizes and a grand prize.
  • INSIDER Info– knowing things only privy to team members and receiving exclusive content.
  • Access to the EXCLUSIVE Strange Reader’s Cafe (which begins in October — going through the book with me for 75 days).
  • DONE-FOR-YOU social media to post (so it’s a no-brainer for you.)
We’ll have weekly prizes and a GRAND PRIZE ($50 Amazon gift card!) at the end of the launch. All the details are on the application.

Launch TeamI’m in. How do I sign up for the Launch Team?

Just follow the link below and it will take you to a form to complete.

I’m super EXCITED! I’D LOVE FOR YOU TO JOIN ME!

For His Glory,

Prayer for a Path Forward

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Prayer for a Path Forward

Are you a morning person?

Honestly, mornings have never been my jam. I would rather stay up until 2:00 AM than get up before seven. Although marrying a morning person did improve my bearish behavior, it wasn’t until I picked up a pattern in Scripture that I left my deviant ways behind.

Somewhere around two kids and a dog, I found myself spent. As a young mom trying to finish school while working part-time, I was exhausted. Long days followed late nights. That’s when I realized something was missing. It dawned on me the Bible never records Jesus staying up late working on a project, like me, too bleary-eyed to pray in the morning. I supposed Jesus was a morning person. Still, the blaring absence communicated there might be something to starting the day in prayer instead of downcast despondence. So, I set about mending my night-owlish ways to do just that.

Lessons Learned on the Path Forward

Spending focused time in prayer is where you and I grow by God’s grace. Those moments are more than giving voice to what concerns us. They are the building blocks of relationships. When Jesus relates his analogy of the vine to the branches, he makes clear there is no fruit found on branches that don’t stay connected to the vine. The point is to live in the vine. It is a picture of a close relationship between God, the vinedresser, and the followers of Christ developed by spending time together.

Chances are, the hours in your days and nights are consumed. There is nothing left by the time your head hits the pillow. I get it. I too have tried to squeeze twenty-seven hours into my allotted twenty-four. And it’s not making me more like Jesus. I need a better path forward. Likely, you do, too.

Let me experience your faithful love in the morning, for I trust in you. Reveal to me the way I should go because I appeal to you. Psalm 143:8

The Psalmist reminds us that when we begin praying in the morning to grow in relationship with God, we can know his faithful love by experience.

When you and I make meeting with God a top priority, before we are spent and exhausted, we reap benefits. Those first moments of the day allow us to pour out our hearts, leave our concerns, and request guidance in knowing which way to go. As we listen, we begin to experience more of God. I don’t understand how it works, but this approach is the one the Psalmist took, Jesus lived, and the way he paved four to live a fruitful life.

The Psalmist is like us in that he wants this reality in his own life – to experience more of God and for direction, so he asks for it.

Prayer for a Path Forward

path forward

Dear Lord,

Today I pray for my fellow night-owl. I pray for the one burning her candle down to the nub, still breathless, never finding time to be alone with You. Or if she does, it’s at random times when she thinks of it. Show her a path forward. Give her a solution for making meeting with you her priority. Draw near so that she will know by experience just how faithful is your love for her. Lead her and direct her ways. Reveal yourself to her in a way she can recognize and understand it comes from a God who is crazy about her.

For all of this I ask in the Name of Jesus, Amen.

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Have you heard the news? Cheri’s new book is coming out soon, and you can be a key player. Monday, August 8, 2022, you can sign up to be a member of Cheri’s Book Launch Team. Get a sneak peek at the book, gain insider information and win free stuff! Click the image to sign up (after Aug. 8).

 

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3 Powerful Ways Your Life Changes When You Know Your Purpose

know your purpose

People tell you many things you should know to change your life, but one thing you need to know is that if you know your purpose, it can have the most powerful impact.

Have you done all the things that were supposed to make you happy, but you still feel like something’s missing?

Maybe you’ve climbed the career ladder just to realize there’s no true meaning at the top.

Maybe you gave all of yourself to raise your kids, and now that your nest is empty, you feel empty too.

Or you might have climbed the career ladder just to realize there’s nothing of real meaning at the top.

You can of course find satisfaction and purpose in all you do as a wife or as a mom, at home or at work.

But if you find your identity only in these accomplishments, and don’t also know your purpose that God specifically designed you for, there will always be a void in your spirit and soul to be filled.

What does it mean to know your purpose? It means living out who God designed you to be and what God called you to do. And when you do this, you impact the lives of those around you and honor God.

What is the Importance of Knowing Your Purpose?

You may be wondering, “Why is it important to find your purpose in life?” The answer is that knowing your purpose in God empowers you to fully embody and express who you are and what you were made to do.

You were made for Knowing Your Purpose

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. ~Ephesians 2:10 NIV

Remember, your true identity lies in who you are in Christ and who you are by the unique design of Your Creator. Your individual personality, strengths, gifts, passions, and all that you are was specially and specifically knit together with purpose.

Your soul yearns for Knowing Your Purpose

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. ~Proverbs 13:12 NIV

Whether you realize it or not, everything inside of you longs to fulfill what you were designed to do. Your spirit and soul have an inherent hope tied to the bigger picture of God’s purposes, which you’re a specific part of on this earth.

If your path doesn’t align with God’s direction for you, true fulfillment and maximum life impact will always remain just out of reach.

3 Ways Your Life Changes When You Know Your Purpose

You may want to know what happens when you find your purpose that is so powerful. There are 3 ways that you’re impacted by knowing your purpose that in turn change how you live your life.

1 – Your Know Who You Are (Psalm 139:14)

As you become more aware of your God-given design, you…

  • Embrace your uniqueness
  • Stop comparing yourself to others so you gain more confidence
  • Start living out your true identity and potential in Christ

2 – You Know Why Youre Here (Ephesians 2:10)

As God’s calling on your life is revealed, you…

  • Understand your significance
  • Stop thinking you’re not enough so you gain more courage
  • Start stepping out into new possibilities to make an impact

3 – You Know Where Youre Going (Proverbs 16:9)

As you partner with God to know your purpose and walk in it, you…

  • Understand God’s vision for your life
  • Stop wandering without direction so you gain more clarity
  • Start being productive in what really matters in God’s plan

As you grow more into the person God’s calling you to be and step farther out into the things God’s calling youknow your purpose to do, it changes everything as you move toward God’s best for you from the inside out.

Arris Charles

She Yearns Ministries would like to thank our guest, Arris Charles today, for her perspective on how your life changes when you know your purpose.

know your purposeArris Charles is a Life Purpose Coach and founder of Live Inspired by Purpose. She helps Christian women in midlife pursue their God-given purpose in their daily life and as their unique calling so they can live with more passion, confidence and impact. Knowing what it’s like to lose yourself in a career that doesn’t fit who you are and what it’s like to have your kids and family be the focus of your whole world, Arris brings both experience and empathy to her life’s work. Both detailed and creative, she blends detailed analysis and inspired vision to help her clients dive deep, dream big, and take bold action toward a new vision for their life.

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